Tackling 1 of the 4 F’s: Family

Thinking about working some family actions into your corporate irunurun dashboard? Here is how I have done it.

If you use irunurun at work, you’ve probably heard us talk about peak performance and the lessons we’ve learned about stress and recovery. While family time may not always conjure up a day at the beach, the truth is, a strong family is a tremendous source of the energy, renewal, and purpose required to peak perform in your job.

The challenge is where to start. If you are already using your dashboard to keep you focused on a handful of high impact (“stressor”) activities in your job, your dashboard real estate is probably in high demand.

If you could use just one of your actions for family, what would it be?

This is the question I faced as I considered the key actions necessary to stay on track with one of my BE GOALS, to be a great husband and dad. Such a goal could easily warrant all 7 actions on my dashboard, so picking just one to do the trick felt like a search for a silver bullet.

For some perspective, I reflected on the awesome program I attended about five years ago with our founder, Mark, called Men’s Fraternity. Created by Dr. Robert Lewis, the Men’s Fraternity program I attended was called “Winning at Work and at Home”.

I learned about my personality type and my spouse’s. I learned about Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages, and how to speak the one that my wife would hear. And, I learned about the things kids need from their fathers as they grow, and how those things evolve. (I also learned a lot about career success, but that is beyond the scope of this post.)

The critical discovery of relevance for me was that the number one most important thing I could do for my wife was to spend quality time with her. And, the number one most important thing I could do for my young kids was to love my wife. So with a blinding flash of the obvious, it came to me…

The number one thing I could do for my family right now: get home from work at a decent time!

With five children ages 7 and under, my wife doesn’t need an occasional wining and dining so much as some day-to-day help!  With this time, I could be there for dinner and help get them ready for bed, read to them and ask about their highs and lows of the day, and have more time with my wife. Win, win, win.

Many of our clients have shared that their family actions involve going out on date night, spending solo time with each child, telling family members they love them, performing an act of service, or calling a parent.  Whichever you choose, I encourage you to practice this important act of recovery.

What is your key family action?